Divorce can bring out the worst in some people. And in the heat of a bitter, acrimonious divorce, some might even launch false allegations at each other.
If your soon-to-be-ex-spouse is doing this or you worry that they will, there are some ways you can respond and protect yourself without hurting your case. Below are some common false allegations or lies people make and what you do if your ex makes them against you.
Family violence incidents can have a tremendous impact on legal matters and outcomes in a divorce. Legitimate claims of abuse can affect someone’s parenting time and responsibilities, as well as payment of spousal support.
However, if your ex falsely accuses you of violent behaviour, you can protect yourself and clear your name by working with your attorney to challenge the allegations. You could also hold your ex liable for the financial, personal and professional damage their lies cause.
Lying about money
If your ex wants more money than is fair, they might lie about their finances. While lying in financial disclosures is illegal and carries serious penalties, people still attempt to do this by:
- Hiding assets
- Inflating liabilities
- Manufacturing living expenses
- Accusing you of having more money than you are reporting
Working with lawyers and forensic accountants can help ensure you have a complete and accurate picture of your financial situation during a divorce.
Lying about your character
Your ex might lie to others to make you look bad or to make themselves look better. These lies could range from accusing you of cheating to saying you are a bad parent.
Even if these falsehoods don’t hold up in court, they could still impact you and your divorce. They could hurt your reputation or make others think poorly of you, affecting your job, image and relationships.
You can choose to handle the lie and its toll on you in many ways, including setting the record straight or deciding to be the bigger person and letting it go. Talking to a therapist or counselor can help you decide which is best for you.
It is undoubtedly upsetting to have someone lying about you. However, seeking support from mental health, legal and financial professionals can help minimize the fallout and hold the liar accountable.