When a couple chooses to end their marriage, whether here in Alberta, or anywhere around the world, there is often more at stake than just their own relationship. Those with children are making a decision that will have a major impact on every individual in their family, not just the future exes. And it isn’t just young children who feel the effects of divorce: teenage and adult children are susceptible as well.
The Government of Canada reports that 1.2 million Canadians who are either divorced or separated have children under the age of 18. The period of divorce, and the times following, are typically periods of stress and upheaval for children. Teenagers in particular are vulnerable during a separation, and some are susceptible to be afflicted by mental illness during a time of great change. Divorce can mean a change of routine, home, school and even friends for a child. Teens are also more cognizant of parents’ moods than younger children and can be impacted by hostile or other negative feelings.
Adult children may also feel the effects. Termed ‘ACOD’, or ‘Adult Children of Divorce’, older children sometimes become an emotional leaning post for their parents. Sometimes adults view their older children more as peers when they’re adults, and treat them as such. This can be a tremendous emotional burden for the child.
How a man and woman handle themselves during a divorce will play a major role in how their children cope with the situation. It may be difficult to do, but great consideration should be given to the children when a divorcing couple is making decisions for the future of their family. Working with a family law firm in Alberta may be a good way toward a fresh start for everyone.
Source: The Sheridan Sun, “I now pronounce you ‘ACOD'”, Kennedy Coltherd, Oct. 14, 2016